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Table of Contents
Chapter 1: Don’t Give Up On Yourself
Why I Wrote This Book and How It Will Benefit You
Everything Starts From Within Yourself
The Story of an Amazing Journey Starts with the Best Reasons…
Chapter 2: The Power of Today
Living Your Life in the Now
Developing a Lion Attitude
The Great Meaning of Life and its Perception
Chapter 3: Your Self-Discovery Journey
Discovering Your Younger Self
Self-Perception and its Impact on Your Success
Developing Your Identity
Discovering Your Values
Chapter 4: Identifying and Accepting Your Life Purpose
How to Identify Your Life Purpose
By Achieving Your Purpose, Who Will You Become?
Chapter 5: How to Enhance Your Self-Confidence and Overcome Your Limited Beliefs
Learning to Believe in Yourself
How I Changed a Limited Belief with a Positive Mind-set
How to Motivate Yourself to Achieve Your Goals
Chapter 6: Discovering Your Strengths by Overcoming Your Fears
How I Overcame my Fears
How I Overcame my Snake Phobia
Find a Mentor and Challenge Your Fears
How to Convert Your Fears and Limitations to Become Your Best
Chapter 7: Taking Action on Achieving Your Goals
The Power of Visualisation
How I Achieved My Goal in Just Three Simple Steps
Adjusting Your Goals to Actual Circumstances
Overcoming Procrastination
Setting Goals and Maintaining a Positive Mind-Set
The Power of Creating a Vision Board
Chapter 8: The New You
Transformational Mind-set
Learning the Importance of Self-Love
Acknowledging Your Blessings and Cherishing Them
Chapter 9: Enhancing Emotional Intelligence
What is Emotional Intelligence?
The Power of Positive Self-Talk
The Swish Pattern Strategy
Expand Your Thinking to Higher Dimensions
How to Develop Your Thinking and Perceive the Reality from Different Perspectives at Different Levels, in Simple Steps
Chapter 10: An Amazing Journey to Enhance Spiritual Awareness
Pursuing Happiness
My Wake-Up Call
Act Now to Create an Amazing Future!
About the Author
I dedicate this book to my dearest and amazing son, Flavius, as he is my motivation and inspiration to improve myself each day so I can motivate and inspire millions of individuals worldwide to grow. I also dedicate this book to YOU, who strives to make a positive difference in this world, to become a better version of yourself, and to dare to take action upon living your wildest dreams!
How many times have you tried to figure out the purpose of your existence on earth? How many days and nights have you spent thinking about how to change your life, without coming up with any answers?
If you are like the majority of people, you have a busy life that is full of different activities, responsibilities and obligations, which may not have anything to do with your desire to achieve your goals and fulfill your dreams. Possibly, you are living your life in survival mode, which keeps you from reaching the great potential that could be yours.
Author Emilia Sandoiu is a strong-minded person, who has overcome a life-changing event and found an amazing approach to her own transformation and self-discovery journey. She strongly believes that you have an amazing life purpose to accomplish, and in Your Future Starts Today she shows you how you can unleash your greatness from within.
This book contains powerful strategies and techniques that you can follow easily, which will enable you to develop self-awareness to guide you through an amazing self-discovery journey. I am firmly convinced that the 5-step guide will resonate with you and help you develop the life you always dreamed of.
Raymond Aaron
New York Times Bestselling Author
I am greatly privileged to have friends, family, academic tutors, fellow entrepreneurs, and clients around me who have made an amazing impact on my personal and professional life. This book, alongside my goal setting and coaching program, has to a great extent streamed out of their insight.
Each and every amazing skill and strategy, I have learned from them, united with my own knowledge in distinctive practices, and then supplied to my clients through books, websites, and webinars, as well as personalized coaching and mentoring, which enriches the lives of many individuals worldwide. For that, I sense how blessed I am, and I am very grateful:
I am grateful for having the best mum, Maria Sandoiu, who taught me to be kind and respectful towards each person I encounter in life, as it will reflect my true self. Because of her dedication, endless love, guidance, and patience, I developed into the kind and strong woman that I am today. Mom has been a big-hearted mentor to me, and an inspiration for helping others.
Thanks to my dad, Ion Sandoiu, from whom I learned to stand up for myself, be original, and respect my word for anything I do and say. Most importantly, he inspired me to believe in myself and develop a lion attitude, and become a strong person that never gives up on their goals. It is because of his intelligence and assertiveness that I learned the importance of goal setting and planning, and to be accountable and responsible for my actions.
I am grateful to my brother, Florin Sandoiu, because of his good heart and strong faith in God. He taught me so much about being humble and grateful for everything I have and will receive in life.
Thank you to my beloved grandmother, Valeria Timofte, who has departed this world. She was such an amazing woman, and she fired up strong faith and love in my heart. Her teaching about being a compassionate person will always guide me through life’s journey.
I feel deeply grateful to have such an amazing son, Flavius Palamiuc, as he inspired me to improve every day and has impacted my life in many amazing ways. He is my rock and motivation to never quit on my self-development process, as I know I am his role model and he has great expectations from me. My son is my blessing and the best thing that happened to me, and for that I am grateful each day when I open my eyes. He taught me what unconditional love is and the importance of integrity and forgiveness. It is because of his high intelligence and intuitive nature that I am motivated to grow and be at my best each day.
Of course, I would like to thank and acknowledge all of my dear friends: Dominika Anoliefo, Sefora Chis, Liliana Mirea and Andreea Hufkie, for being such amazing people, and for inspiring me to learn more, achieve my goals, be kind, and become the best version of myself. I am grateful and feel lucky to have each and every one of them in my life.
I am truly grateful for all the help and guidance that I have received from my dear and best academic tutors, coaches, and mentors: Christopher Mabika, Brenda Patil, Tahir Saeed, and Paul Bhangal. They have inspired me to aim for the best and complete my business degree with distinction. Also, they believed in me and motivated me to be a great leader; it takes a great heart to shape one’s life, for which I thank them with all my heart, for their amazing input in my self-development process.
I am extremely grateful to the best motivational speaker, and my virtual mentor, Mr. Les Brown, for all his inspirational and motivational speeches. Because of his love for helping others, and sharing his amazing story in his amazing books, I learned to face my fears and struggles, to feel special, and to believe that I can live my dreams.
Thank you to the greatest leaders that had an amazing input with their unique teaching and inspiration to help me become the best that I can be: Gandhi and Dalai Lama. It is because of their best books that I read and learned from that I have developed emotionally and spiritually.
I am and will be grateful for my entire life to Susan Jeffers, the author of an amazing and one of the best books I have ever read: Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway. Because of her book, I learned to conquer my fears, loneliness, and depression during one of the hardest periods of my life, and to challenge myself to become the strong and confident woman that I am today.
There are so many more people that I could thank; however, time, space, and modesty requires me to stop here.
Chapter 1
Don’t Give Up On Yourself
Congratulations for making the right decision to read my book! You have started an amazing self-discovery journey, in which you will find guidance, inspiration, and motivation. By making this decision now, you will have more control over your actions and life, as you believe that you deserve a greater future for yourself. Living in a superficial world that is today, to be yourself and genuine is a struggle, as more and more individuals are copying each other, or are just unsure where they need to be and whom they need to become in life.
Are you where you dreamed of being? Or are you feeling tired of living a life that is not what you wished for. Maybe you are looking for some answers, or for inspiration and to learn how to improve your life. Your searching is ending now, as I can assure you that you have found the right book—the five-step guide to an inspired life. In this guide, you will find the help you need, and you will learn how to develop self-awareness and a powerful mind-set to be in alignment with your true self and take control over your life.
Why I Wrote This Book and How It Will Benefit You
“The future belongs to those
who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt
I believe each and every one of you is unique, and that uniqueness is the reason for your presence on earth. “What is meant for you is entirely for you; your hopes, dreams, and talents are yours, and if you don’t use these talents or identify your life purpose, you may not be living your life to its greatest potential” I know the feeling of uncertainty, as for many years I had been confused about my purpose—my why—and why I’m here, in this world. I asked myself why I was not satisfied with the life I used to live. Perhaps it was because I did not know who I was, or did not give my best. Maybe it was because I was not aiming for greatness. So many questions to be answered...
I spent many years of my life looking for guidance, inspiration, and support from anyone that could help me discover who I really am and what the purpose of my existence is. But there was no one to care about my questions and worries, as maybe they did not know this for themselves either. Time is life, and no one cannot recover lost time, not even a second. Therefore, it is important to live every day to the fullest, as though it were the last, because tomorrow is not guaranteed.
I learned the significance of time and life the hard way by embracing limiting beliefs, becoming depressed, and delaying my decisions for years as I did not perceive myself good enough to act upon my dreams, and I was dwelling over my mistakes from the past for too long. Why? Because I was alone and scared, and I lived my life based on limited beliefs, developed from other people’s opinions. I did not know the powerful steps that I know today, and how easy it is to implement them to live my dreams and the life I want. As Les Brown says, “Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.” And it is true; I choose to change, grow, and live life on my terms, by embracing fears and overcoming my limited beliefs, and fulfilling each dream from my list, such as writing this book and to help millions of individuals worldwide through coaching, mentoring and motivational speaking!
So, now I decided to dedicate my life to inspire, motivate, and help you overcome your limited beliefs and fears, to identify your life purpose and live the life of your dreams. This book will guide you through an amazing self-discovery journey, where you will find all answers to your questions. You just need to dare to take action on searching within your inner self for these answers. The five-step guide will help you find the answers you are looking for to start living the life you always dreamed of—it just takes one thing: Action! Just read this guide and apply the techniques outlined, as this small action will empower you to discover not only who you really are but how many great opportunities are waiting for you!
Everything Starts From Within Yourself
In my heart I always felt that I could do better than I had done so far in life, and I knew there were amazing experiences waiting for me to explore and live them in full. “But to have more, you have to do more; to have something better, you must do something greater, and many times, differently.” And this requires a change.
Hence, my life’s breakthrough started in 2009. My life transformed drastically when I was facing an emotional and financial meltdown. It was shocking how fast my life was changing, as I was dealing with a difficult separation from my son’s father, with whom I had previously assumed I would be together with for life. I was dealing with depression and financial difficulties, and I became a single mum of a three-year-old little boy. As a foreigner and living in London with a young child, it was a hassle that I had to overcome by myself, and make all needs met, whilst dealing with my own emotional struggles and nurturing my son’s too. My parents were living in my home city of Bucharest, Romania, and were dealing with serious health issues. My dad suffered a stroke, causing legs paralysis, and Mum was recovering after her knee surgery, had a weak heart and also had to care for him. Hence, it was a difficult situation for them, and they needed my reassurance and financial help to pay for their medication. It was one of the most challenging periods in my life; I felt confused, pressurised by the situation, and very concerned about my future.
In my late 20s, there I was—a single mum—alone and scared, with very little money in my bank account, living in London. My English was poor and was mostly at a conversational level, but I still managed to find a low-paying job, which was mostly spent on my son’s childcare, and on hardly any bills. As a foreigner, my work rights were limited and I could only find a job as a housekeeper at the time, so I had to work long hours to earn a living for me and my son. Feeling lost and depressed, I started to meditate and seek a way to improve my life. It was hard; however, I could hear my inner voice screaming at me to not give up, and to hold onto my faith that everything would get better.